Is it Bad Behavior or ADHD?

Nearly every parent has seen their child throw a temper tantrum or have a “meltdown” over seemingly little things. Children are constantly learning and being bombarded with different stimuli everywhere they go, and each child will react differently to the same situations. Occasional meltdowns are to be expected, but it can become worrisome if your child becomes agitated or upset over everyday occurrences multiple times a week. 

​One possible sign your child could have ADHD is that they have emotional outbursts or have trouble explaining their feelings. However, it is also possible that your child may just be “acting out” due to other circumstances such as being bullied at school, having a friend move away, or other events that seem life-altering to them at the time. Learning the signs and symptoms of ADHD is a start to helping you either rule out the possibility of ADHD, or to seek a professional’s help and diagnosis for your child.

Signs and Symptoms of ADHD

Some people, and even other parents, can be quick to say that all kids have trouble sitting still and focusing. But these aren’t the only signs and symptoms of childhood ADHD. There is a wide range of symptoms ADHD can cause, including :​

• Impulsivity. 

• Defiance.

• Self-focused behavior, such as interrupting or having difficulty waiting their turn.

• Emotional outbursts or temper tantrums.

• Trouble organizing, initiating or completing tasks.

• Daydreaming and forgetfulness.

• Difficulty paying attention or staying focused.

While it is likely that most children will display these signs at some point, it is important to notice if your child is regularly displaying ADHD symptoms in different environments. For example, it makes sense if your daughter thinks math is boring and is prone to daydreaming in her algebra class. However, if she seems to be unfocused in most of her classes and while she is at home with family, this can be a sign of ADHD. 

Another sign of ADHD is that one or more of the listed symptoms is starting to impact your child’s life in a negative way. This can be shown through fighting with peers, falling behind in school work, forgetting to do assignments, or other events. If your child’s grades are beginning to slip or they’re getting in trouble with teachers for not completing their homework, it may be time to seek help from a psychiatrist or therapist.

Why Do Kids with ADHD Act Out?

As mentioned, emotional outbursts or temper tantrums can indicate ADHD. These meltdowns can cause your child to become angry, inconsolable, and defiant. While it is difficult for parents to watch their child become so upset, it is important to know why children with ADHD act out at certain times.​

• Repetitive or boring tasks can be very challenging for someone with ADHD, and it can be even more frustrating for them if they have to stop doing something fun or enjoyable to go do their homework or do their chores. 

• Dr. Anderson notes that along with impulsivity, children with ADHD find it “excruciating to wait,” and that they have trouble with delayed gratification. These would be the kids unable to wait for the second marshmallow in the famous Stanford marshmallow test.

• Unfortunately, children with ADHD may have more trouble making friends. This can be due to their lack of focus causing them to lose track of the conversation, constantly interrupting other kids while they’re talking, or impulsively yelling at others when they don’t get their way. In one study conducted at a boy’s summer camp, researchers noted children with ADHD were more likely to be disliked or ignored than boys without an ADHD diagnosis. Feeling lonely and unliked by peers can increase irritability and frustration in children with ADHD and this can lead to more outbursts or tantrums.

Advice for Parents.

It is recommended to ask your child’s doctor or psychologist for a professional diagnosis and treatment plan if you suspect your child has ADHD. If your child is diagnosed with ADHD, one of the most important things you can do is to establish a consistent daily routine for your child. This minimizes the chances they will forget something, and it will lessen arguments about when it’s time to go to bed, eat dinner, or do homework.

Counseling is a great way for your child to learn how to process and express their emotions in a healthier way. Seeking a therapist’s help can make a positive impact in your child’s life by teaching them skills they can utilize for the rest of their life, such as coping strategies for boredom, learning how to communicate better with peers, and channeling their energy into creative outlets. Oakville Wellness Center allows parents to view profiles of several qualified therapists, schedule appointments online, and there are even convenient weekend and evening hours available. 
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By:  Dr. Syras Derksen
Registered Psychologist