If breaking a sweat can make you feel better, working out with your partner can definitely improve your relationship. For instance, morning jogs can be a great outlet for negative emotions thereby decreasing stress. Also, the in-between-conversations can strengthen communication lines. The endorphin hormones that get produced during exercise make couples feel synchronous, blissful, and passionate.
For those of you who exercise regularly, you perfectly understand the bliss after a good run or a basketball game. May it be yoga, brisk walks, swimming, or pumping iron, physical activities that suit your personality have been proven to improve subjective well-being. In addition, people who regularly work out tend to feel better about themselves. This positive self-esteem is quite advantageous in relationships. It would be challenging to trust and commit yourself to someone if you still have substantial security issues. Managing a relationship will certainly be easier when both of the partners are in healthy emotional states. When couples work out, they both revel in and share the fun! Hence, each partner reaps the benefits of each other’s joy.
Sweating Out Together Enhances Intimacy
According to a recent study published in The Journal of Human Factors and Ergonomics, you tend to feel closer to someone who acts like you (Verberne, Ham, & Midden, 2015). The researchers concluded that their participants placed higher value and trust to an agent who exhibited more similarities with them. This research is similar with other papers which proved that nonverbal mimicry can fortify emotional bonds (Stel & Vonk, 2010). In application to relationships, couples who play sports, hit the gym, or jog together usually execute within each other’s pace. Therefore, they tend to mimic each other’s behavior may it be consciously or not.
Since engaging in enjoyable physical activities can lift your moods, it can also improve a marriage’s physical intimacy. In fact, a recent study which was published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine concluded that exercise can significantly boost erectile and sexual function (Simon, Howard, Zapata, Frank, Freedland, & Vidal, 2015). The researchers looked into the metabolic equivalents (METS) of 295 men and those who had higher physical activity levels proved to experience better performance in the bedroom. In particular, those who had weekly 2-hour-strenuous, 3.5-hour-moderate, or 6-hour-light exercises for a week had higher sexual function scores.
Fit for Each Other
Health issues can get in the way of a myriad of delightful activities. For example, going on a family holiday would be quite taxing if you need to be concerned with a number of precautions and medical expenses. One effective way of combating diseases such as diabetes, arthritis, health ailments, obesity, and even depression is regular exercise. Furthermore, working out’s benefit in boosting energy helps in accomplishing household chores, childcare duties, and other responsibilities. Ergo, being healthy and having enough energy can help in doing more for each other.
All in all, frequently engaging in physical activities is great for you, for your partner, and for your relationship. With this active avenue, you can buttress your bond as well as bask in the pleasant experience.
By Dr. Syras Derksen
Stel, M., & Vonk, R. (2010). Mimicry in social interaction: benefits for mimickers, mimickees, and their interaction. British Journal of Psychology, 101(2), 311-323.
Simon, R., Howard, L., Zapata, D., Frank, J., Freedland, S. & Vidal, A. (2015). The association of exercise with both erectile and sexual function in black and white men. The Journal of Sexual Medicine. 12(5), 1202-1210.
The serious impact of cyberbullying on its victims are well documented in our news today. The tragic stories of Rehteah Parsons and Amanda Todd have inspired changes in national laws and sparked many policies and prevention strategies in schools. Instances of cyberbullying continue, however, and have become a regular concern in the lives of many adolescents.
Bullying in general has historically been even more of a challenge for those whom other children and teens perceive to be different from themselves and their friends. Individuals with disabilities, whether physical or mental, are more prone to becoming targets. And as bullying experts will tell you, it is not uncommon for people who are victims to then become the bully in an effort to regain self-worth and power. Therefore, bullying, both direct and online, are significant concerns to parents and teachers of students with learning and behaviour difficulties.
Heiman, Olenik-Shemesh, and Eden (2015) investigated cyberbullying involvement among teens with ADHD and how it relates to feelings of loneliness, self-esteem, and social support. In their study, which is consistent with other research, adolescents with ADHD are more likely to be involved in bullying behaviour overall, as a perpetrator, a victim, or a witness. Those who are victims reported higher levels of loneliness, and were less likely to believe in their capabilities and also report less social support. This is not surprising, but the study also found that even teens with ADHD who witnessed cyberbullying felt lonelier and less confident about themselves.
This study gives some insight into the everyday effects of cyberbullying in teens. Most surprising perhaps is the changes in feelings of loneliness and self-confidence of those who are just witnessing the events. They may be feeling empathy for the victim, they may be reminded of times when they were the victim, or perhaps they have an understanding of how the negative words are isolating peers from each other.
It is important to note that despite the negativity in the findings above, compared with other teens, the study also found that those with ADHD were more likely to ask bullies to stop or to report the instances to parents or teachers. They are able to see that something is not right and are willing to make steps to stop the bullying. While these teens experience some significant emotions around cyberbullying, they also have great potential to create change in online social culture.
Understanding the emotional impact of cyberbullying in teens with ADHD can help to start conversations with them about their interactions with peers, and also be a way to encourage them to be agents of positive change.
By Kristi MacDonald
Heiman, T., Olenik-Shemesh, D., & Eden, S. (2015). Cyberbullying involvement among students with ADHD: Relation to loneliness, self-efficacy and social support. European Journal of Special Needs Education, 30(1), 15-29. Doi: http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/08856257.2014.943562